Feel like writing on this topic because I suddenly thought of my friend's hubby, who had intention to cheat on her. Don't ask me how I came to know of his intention....
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Everyone is vulnerable to temptations and thrill seeking behaviour.
If you are attached or married and one day you met a guy or lady who strangely sets your heart fluttering; would you consider exchanging numbers and staying in contact? Is this considered cheating on your partner??
Even if it is platonic, no feelings of heartstrings pulling and fluttering hearts and shortness of breath; would you consider exchanging numbers and staying in contact? Is this considered cheating on your partner??
Cheating - is subjective.
Some people think that cheating only happens when there is physical involvement and some people think cheating involves the emotional aspects as well. Sex is, to many, considered unforgivable cheating; kissing, perhaps is forgivable depending on the situation. Some people think sexually fantasizing is cheating. Some people think going out with the opposite gender when you are attached or married is cheating.
No matter how subjective and differing standards of infidelity exist - being cheated is hurtful.
Most people, attached or married or even singles, who chose to get involved in one night stands or flings do it because they cannot resist the temptation and thrill. It is already beyond the need to feel socially connected, emotionally wanted or important.
To me it is simple - when there is a sense of guilt and conscious hiding from the partner, it is cheating.
I have pretty close guy friends. I do not consciously hide it or bring it up as a regular topic for discussion with the partner. But I am clear with the boundaries and the bottomline. The same is for the partner.
So what is your tolerance level?
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